Being prepared can help mitigate unnecessary hardship when the moment arrives and it is a part of your legacy. Paperwork is very important and takes more than a few conversations to be really clear about your end-of-life care. As one woman said it "I do want to write my own obituary, I will have the last say"! Knowing what it is that you personally want would alleviate unnecessary anguish for family members forced to make decisions with no clear instructions. ​